June 3rd 2013
I’m not sure what’s going on but last night I dreamed that I was marrying a woman. I was wearing a long white fitted gown, the one I got married in last time. I had a massive bouquet which was handed to me at the last minute. It looked as though it had just been delivered by the florist and someone had taken off the cellophane wrapper. A gladioli flower gave it its length.
My bride was white, tall and quite plump. She was dressed in a short purple dress and wore a purple headdress. The wedding was taking place on a long street and we were at opposite ends. The minister was at her end. As s/he began to go through the vows we were still a long way from each other. We ran toward each other and swung each other around when we met. It felt like I was meeting her for the first time.
The people around us (about 30) cheered. One of my brothers shouted good luck wishes from the other side of a railing. He was the only member of my family there.
That’s where the dream ended, with the two of us swinging each other around.
Some sites suggest that marriage is about unifying different sides of yourself. This appears on the website http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_does_it_mean_to_dream_about_getting_married
‘Marriage signifies commitment, harmony or transitions. You are undergoing an important developmental phase in your life. The dream may also represent the unification of formerly separate or opposite aspects of yourself. In particular, it is the union of masculine or feminine aspects of yourself. Consider the qualities and characteristics of the person that you are marrying. These are the qualities that you need to look at in incorporating within yourself.’
First I dreamed I was getting married to God, integration of spiritual self, then to a friend. Could that mean that I’ve finally made friends with myself? Now I’m getting married to a woman. This may be another message about bringing more feminine energy into my life, truly accepting my femininity.
Could it also be about integrating the black and white side of me? Genetically I’m obviously mixed, but had never really thought much about my white genes until I did the work on slavery while writing Love is Not a Reward. Maybe I’m finally accepting all aspects of me.
I’ve just come through an intense period of house clearing – lots of clutter cleared and identity redefined. I’m going to write that up as a separate blog, but I feel that maybe that had something to do with this dream.
As always, I’d welcome any additional views on any part of the dream. Always eager to learn.
June 4, 2013 at 12:50 am
Sorry lass, just had a good kicking due to a misunderstanding on here due to messages causing Grave offence, but I will think about it and get back to you in a few.
June 5, 2013 at 9:27 pm
Hope you’re not too sore from the kicking. Hope everything gets sorted soon.
June 6, 2013 at 3:37 pm
Right, I do think you are on the right track here, One visualization techniques is that we are in a clearing (but a street will work), We then see a person entering, this could be our soul mate, or some such, but they have energies which we need. We then join together to become one with that new energy, bring it into ourselves.
Your dream does sound like this, to my mind. I am sure that it is not just Shaman that use this, but most Spiritualists, witches et al. So after the clearing, you are aligning yourself with the Energy you need at this time to carry on your Path and also your life, because both are connected. Someone else may better explain it than I can because although I know it I have never been able to use it since I found out about it. I do hope it helps and if I come across as trying to force you into a direction, I am sorry, just let me know and I will.